In general I am much more of a “heart” type person than a “head” type person . An action person, someone who feels things deeply and strongly, and I don’t think I would ever be accused of overthinking something…I tend to move pretty quickly. Most of the time. I am “feeler” not so much a “thinker.”
Without action the picture we get of love is so incomplete, lacking and very confusing. I am trying to move towards action in meaningful ways, not necessarily huge ways – but in small ways that matter, being ok with dying to my own desires or plans or whatever, in order to love others well. Maybe to bite my tongue and give a hug rather than give my unsolicited advice, and offer yet one more time a better way to do something. Maybe I could actually help my kids clean up their rooms instead of complaining about how long it takes them. Or maybe it’s going out and having fun and laughing when I am tired and exhausted and cold just want to lay on the couch under 15 blankets. Action. Instead of getting caught up in the frustration, ideas, or the “shoulds” in my head. Sometimes I sit in my head and stay there for a good long while, shutting down the action and the heart behind what is going on.
I want to set an example for the little girls who God has entrusted us with to show them what love looks like. How there are lots of pieces to love. And it’s not just as simple as someone saying “I love you,” which can be great. But that isn’t all to the story, it’s a bigger and more beautiful and complex story than just saying words. I want them to have high (incredibly high!) standards and know that they deserve to be loved well, cared for and that they matter. The other side of the coin is, obviously, that I want to show them how to do this. I want them to learn how to be a good friend and maybe a great wife and mother someday. Someone to whom loving others comes easily and naturally.
I hope it is a joy for them, to show love, and I hope I show them how love is so much more than just a thought or some words, instead, how it is about action- it’s not passive or lazy or even easy all the time, but powerful and transforming when done right. I want to be a heart person. If we are to be known by how we love, then I want to make sure and make that a big deal, not just something I do cognitively, but that is a part of who I am and what I do.